How To Really Pick Up Black Girls At On Online Black Matchmaker Site

Picking Up Hot Black Girls

Hi, Black Guys and Black girls,

Thanks for the intro Mathilda.
BTW Mathilda. U Have My attention too. Black Cutie ;-)

Anyways, I think Black Friend Finder mainly Brought me on to help out the black ladies in our BFF fanclub but this week I'm Gonna start with the black males 1st. I'll be honest. I'm a black woman that gets hit on a lot. I see the good bad and the ugly.

So Here Goes... some of you black males need to step up your game. Last Week I was approached in my black friend finder profile with "Hey Ebony, Maybe we could go to the gym or sumthin sumthin cause Your the kind of Shape I'd like to get into. Know what I'm sayin Black Booty Judy. Holla Back , Phat Booty Mike"

Oh My My.. Cute.
OK I know A lot of black dudes are looking for ebony sex (no pun intended) Yes.
But Is this sort of intro Effective? With Me... NO!!!
You really all need to listen to what Mathilda says in here in the BFF Blog each week.

Otherwise You aint getting this ebony booty ... or probably any other sexy black women .

Sincere works over all other BS. In Fact I'm gonna give you a black boys a huge dating tip.
# 1 sign up for Black Friend Finder Its FREE To Signup.
# 2 Go Here and Get A Crash Course on How to email womens profiles and be effective in 3 days or less.

Picking up black women the right way is not rocket science.

You just need to do it in a way the black models or hot black girls accept and love.

I'm not kidding, if you do just these 2 things and follow them like a recipe you will have more black dates, black dating, black sex, or whatever it your black online dating hearts desire.

I'm gonna tell you a secret right now. & I promise to owe Mathilda 1 kiss on the his cute black cheeks for telling u this.
(Cause He might be mad for me telling you about one of his secrets to success)

He did step 2 above and it took his game to another level.
In fact, its how he met me. Whether you are looking for african sex or just learning how to kiss it will help you.

Many of the tips he gives you here are derived step 2 above.

& If You're a hot black women and you want to give someone a nudge how to better approach you and be successful, then send them here and tell them to do the two steps above. (Make sure to give them your black friend finder profile address so they can follow up with you)

This Stuff Works!! Pickup More Hot Women Starting Now!

Until Next Time,
Get In & Get Busy Dating
http://www.Black-Friend-Finder.com (Over 20 Million Black Singles)
Ebony Simpson (Black Online Dating Expert)
As Always, Practice Safe Sex
(Cause Having Kids Or STDS Is Expensive!)

Here's a list of the top 12 search terms people are using to find us this week.
1. black love
2. find love
3. date site
4. find black love
5. black date site
6. black mature
7. black guy
8. black meet or meet black
9. black people
10. black woman white man
11. black female
12. black on black dating

honorable mention(#13) - fat black

Hey Wazzup Yall...
Just an FYI Update of note.
We've got big changes coming up in the next month.
I have added a co writer for the www.black-friend-finder.com blog
She is co-owner of Black-Friend-Finder.com and a good friend of mine.
Ms. Ebony Simpson (yes black guys - she's single on BFF and looking - But remember I saw her first ;-)

BS'ing aside. She Knows her stuff when it comes to black online dating and black love in general.


We brought her on for 2 reasons.

#1. Shes Hot!!! & Smart!!

and

#2 We Took a look at the black-friend-finder.com search logs and saw that folks are finding us with these types of keywords (see list below)

I wanted to share with you and thought you brothers and sisters would find this real..

Can You tell which searches where done by black brothers and which were done by black sisters
(For answers see parenthesis)

blacks (Both Sexes Search for this)
young black (MoSTLY Black Males Search For this)
find love (Black Females)
black female (Black Males)
black male (Black Females)
fat black (Black Males)
black body (Black Males)
black boy (Black Females)
black ladies (Black Males)
black models (Black Males)
love dating (Black Females)
looking for love (Black Females)
meet girls (Black Males)
black single (Both)
beautiful black women (Black Males)
black male models (Black Females)
black mature (Black Males)
hot black girls (Duh... Black Males)
ethiopian girls (Black Males)
ebonysex (Black Males)
big black women (Black Males)
ghetto girls (Black Males)
hot black (Black Males)
fat black women (Yes Some Black Males Like Thick Girls Best )
black guy (Black Females)
matchmaker (Black Females)
big black girls (Black Males)
fat girls (Black Males)
blackpussy (Duh.. I dunno maybe Black Males)
black boobs (ditto)
big girls (Black Males)
big boobies (Black Males)
hot black girls (Black Males)
big women (Black Males)
date online (Black Females)
black ebony (Both Sexes Search For This Term)
thick girls (Black Males)
beautiful black women (Black Males)
jamaican girl (Black Males)
big black women (Black Males)
hot black (Black Males)
black mama (Black Males)
ghetto girls (Black Males)
big black girls (Black Males)
fat black (Black Males)
black moms (Black Males)
blackgirl (Black Males)
beautiful african women (Black Males)
hairy black girls (I'll let you guess LOL)
black women white man (White Males) (FunnyORDie.com Video anyone) LOL
pretty black girls (Black Males)
black girlfriend (Black Males)
cute black girls (Black Males)
huge girls (Black Males)
black girl white guy (Black Females)
black girls rock (Mostly Black Males)
sistas (Black Males)
big black mamas (Black Males)

So you can see its slighty slanted. More males search terms in that list, but definitely bigger volume keyword searches for the black women keywords. In other words black girls search for less keywords, but they all search for certain keywords so the keywords have bigger volume. Kind of like most black women pretty much all use the same search terms.
Interesting huh.

Anyways. Heres the Bottom Line..
After all was researched on the keywords you folks are using to find us, we realized B.F.F. needed a seperate black viewpoint.

That is, from the black ladies perspective.
So We're gonna be splitting up the dutys around here.
I'm gonna give the black guys expert tips on how to pick up the black ladies the right way.
& Ebony is gonna give the black ladies dating tips on how to pick up and flirt with the black boys they like.

& Everybody Black Meet in the Middle.. So To Speak. Get It?

Stay Tuned. Lots More Black Love & Black Passion Coming Your Way.

Get In & Get Busy
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Whenever guys who are not black ask me, “What’s it like to date a black girl?” I respond by joking, “I wouldn’t know. I’ve never dated one. As in, I always date black women not girls) Kidding aside, I always call Black Girls "Black Women" because they are all that and then some, at least in my book.

And for a while now, I’ve promised you guys a “How to Pick Up Hot Black Women” post or something similar. Right. I thought about it last August but, WTH, stuff happens in the days between my blog posts. So, when I got down to writing things the next evening, I got sidetracked again, and wrote about I don't remember what. Anyways I'm back on track, finally, the waiting is done: a list of Do This and DON'T Do This are below. Here we go Hang On..

5 Tips for Picking Up; Black Babes, Black Hotties, Black Women or Finding Black Love in general. Whatever Ya want to call it,
Meet Black

Here We Go:

1. Make it stupid simple. If you’ve never dated a hot black girl and you’d like to ask someone hot out, how bout something like: “Hey, Girl are you free on Friday? Maybe we could be grab coffee or drinks or something and get to know eachother better?” Yes, my brothas, it’s that simple. So simple it works probably 70% of the time. If you still need help, Stay tuned to the black friend finder blog Because we are gonna keep coming back to this theme. Over and Over till you got so many black dates lined up you dont return my calls anymore. :(
Learn How to Ask a Black Woman Out on A Date.

2. DO NOT go into overkill. Telling off endorsements like “I’ve always worshiped black women” or “Black girls have tons more flava” or "I almost made Pro NBA status" will only make you mostly seem like a jerk. Side note, Also, Never ever go out in a spontaneous freestyle rap to prove how “hip and down” you are. [OK Maybe if you're real good. But that's a BIG if.]
( 50cent could get a way wit it. But 85% of others. NO! No! LOL )

3. Be honest about yourself. When the subject comes up, Is their anything wrong with saying, “I never been on a real date with a black hottie before because... ” Most Your dates will respect you're being honest. By the way, on a side bar, as a rule don’t lie with women in general. (You don't always tell them everything either) But generally don't lie. This single one tip has really helped me with the black booty judys. No one likes to be led on. So, if you really want to DATE a hot black girl but you’d just like to have black sex, there are plenty of places and opportunities to do that. Place a Craigslist add. sign up For FREE at www.black-friend-finder.com. Look into other black communities. But, be honest about your intentions.

Believe Me, there are plenty of black girls out there that have the same intentions as you.
;-)

But they want to get to know a little about you initially.

4. Make sure to have an open head. People are very unique and mostly cool and fly creatures. Everybody comes from alternate worlds & ethnicitys, classes, educations, spirituality (or not) and locations. And, Remember, we learned different things in life. So, we each have very unique thoughts about how things work. If You are dating someone who has a background that's unlike your own, make sure to study up against ideas that maybe will be different to your own ideas. One persons “right” attitude is not always the best way to think. Try seeing things from "her view" sometimes. Honestly, Women Love This. Plus, besides you might learn something new.
FYI - This is why Opposites attract!!!

5. Treat your dates like a DATE. Huh, Oh Ya? Generally, I think most people want to be cherished, loved, cared for, desired, etc. for who they are. Black Women want you to respect them, and be interested in them as a person too.

So spend some quality time getting to know her. Pretend like it’s a, you know, DATE.

Then she most likely will give something up in return... which all us guys like, and quite honestly most girls love too.. (they just don't admit it)
;-)

Remember to Practice Safe Sex and Get In & Get Busy Dating!
Mathilda Howard
Owner/Ceo
www.black-friend-finder.com

Top 10 Best Black / Ebony Dating Tips - Safe Online Dating for Black Women

Safe Online Dating for Black Women (& women in General Too!)

You are just about to meet this black stud you have been chatting with online and you are SO excited! Don't let your excitement make you forget that the MOST important thing you can do is think safe!

1. Set arrangements to meet up in a public place for your 1st date. Never give out your home address.(OK Maybe when you're married). Kidding aside, just because a hot black guy seems sweet while chatting online, does not mean you should start trusting him enough to give out your home address. That is not safe! Think First..

2. For safety's sake, meet where there will be other people around. You may also want to consider going out with a group of people, or a double date.

3. Never give your home phone # out. It's alright to give a cell phone number, but your home phone can easily be used online with a Reverse Phone Number search to find out your address. .

4. Avoid alcohol on the 1st date. We all know that when we've had a few drinks, we get a little "looser" than we really want to and that can be a Big mistake. If this is Mr. Right, you may well have ruined it by getting drunk and going further with a stranger than you know you should. If this is Mr. Wrong, You have lost good judgement. Thats unsafe.

5. LISTEN TO YOUR GUT Instinct! If something about this man makes you uneasy, nervous, or you just feel something is not right, then leave. Do this in a nice way, but be safe rather than sorry.

6. Always drive yourself to this first meeting or two. Don't allow him to pick you up because if you do, you may very well be putting yourself in a dangerous situation. It's just not worth the risk. If he is a good man, he will understand!

7. Never make assumptions about someone you are getting together with for the first time, no matter how long you have been chatting online or on the phone. Don't do it! You don't know this guy yet and the risk just is not worth it.

8. Wait until your 2nd or even 3rd date before you disclose certain information. Keep your mind open and see if you get any bad vibes about the black guy 1st.

9. Make sure you always let someone know where you are going to meet your date at, Inform them what time you are expecting to be home, even have them call and check on you during your date and you can have some code word ready to let your friend know if things are going good or bad. .

10. Don't let your heart overrule your mind. Keep your wits about you. Keep your cell phone turned on and ready to use at a moments notice should things take a turn for the worse. Safety first!

Remember, dating should be fun and exciting. You can keep it that way even while using caution and keeping yourself safe. There is no need to feel you have to be "cool" and do whatever it is that this guy wants you to do. Remember, if he is the ONE, he won't mind waiting until you are comfortable enough to let him know more about you. He'll respect you for it and more importantly, you'll respect yourself.

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7 Top Things That Black Women Want in Their Black Men during the initial Black Dating Phases.

There is a saying that "you wont get a 2nd chance to make a great 1st impression." Hence, it is crucial to be prepared to make a good impression on each black date you go on. Here are 7 tips for black men on black dating success and making a "Big Impression".

1. Bath or Shower Regularly
One of the worst things you can do when going out on a date (especially if it is your 1st date) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Black Women are genearlly the cleaner of the sexes and will partly judge you on how clean you are. Remember Cleanliness is next to sexyness. Bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and black girls will assume that this is how you are most of the time even if you are just having a bad day. She won’t be able to see beyond your appearance.

2. Get There on Time
Don’t turn up late. Turning up late sends out bad impressions. She may think she's been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change. Is he unreliable? Is he caring enough about her to be on time. Five minutes early is even better. Any earlier, and you might catch her adjusting her makeup or still getting ready. Five minutes early is the earliest you should arrive.

3. Give black women a Thoughtful Gift
A woman feels great when the man she is with gives her a nice gift. Know a few things about your perfect black woman before a first date. Maybe that came from phone conversations, emails, etc. Take what you know and buy her an appropriate date gift. For example, let's say that the woman really likes dancing. Get her a dance video and a rose. For an all purpose generic thoughtful gift, buy a chocolate rose. That's always nice without being overboard.

4. Make Sure To Compliment Your Ebony Girl.
The first thing you might say to her is.. You look Great Girl! Do this before you even ask how she is. Keep up the comments throughout your date, but do not go over board (3 for the night should be more than enough). A black woman loves to be complimented, to feel pretty and to think that you are attracted to her. More sincere = the bigger impact it will have.

5. Listen to Her and Ask relevant Questions
Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. Get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more crucial, listen to what she has to say. A black woman is attracted to a black man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and letting her talk rather than talking only of yourself. This is crucial in the black online dating or black singles game.

6. About The Goodnight Kiss
Some black single women may prefer not to kiss after an initial date, while other black girls may be pissed if the black guy doesn't even try. There is no easy simple answer to this question. Body language and the chemistry during the night is crucial in the decision you make. If it feels on, then by all means make the move. If it doesn't feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate.

7. And Always Practice Safe Sex. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safe_sex Its simple, Plus, You and Your Partners Life Will Thank You For It! In 2010 Responsibility Is IN!

Black Friend Finder (Black Dating Niches) -
1. Christian Black Dating
2. Nice Black Dating
( * Uses FriendFinders Black Database)
3. Adult Black Dating
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December 1 Marked World AIDS Day, How does this National STD Awareness Day effect you and your partner?

World AIDS Day was last week, and worldwide there were many different locations marking this important day. Red Ribbons and the words "Fight AIDS" were seen all over the world. So what does this have to do with you and an all black dating site like black-friend-finder.com ?

Well a lot actually, Yes, we promote "Black Love" on B.F.F. The world is a lot better place with it, But Dig - In 2009 Responsibility is "In".

This is particularly important to an ebony dating site, and a fellow webmaster recently brought this to my attention.

From Wiki-
AIDS is now a pandemic. In 2007, it was estimated that 33.2 million people lived with the disease worldwide, and that AIDS killed an estimated 2.1 million people, including 330,000 children. Over three-quarters of these deaths occurred in sub-Saharan Africa, retarding economic growth and destroying human capital and lives.

According to the Center for Disease Control 2007 statistics, blacks accounted for 51 percent of the 42,655 new HIV/AIDS diagnoses;

On Friday, October 30, President Barack Obama signed the Ryan White HIV/AIDS CARE Act and stated, "there are still 1.1 million people living with HIV/AIDS in the United States and more than 56,000 new infections that occur every single year." While you probably are not of the 56,000 that currently have HIV/AIDS, fatal STDs such as this one can infect you or anyone around you at any point and time. This is why safe sex is so important in your sexual relationships.

And no safe sex is 100 percent. Even in a committed relationship, married people are also a growing number to find out that they have HIV/AIDS from a cheating partner. Even the Obamas got tested for HIV/AIDS to prove that it's okay to do so, which I thought was great - lead by example.

If you're interested in being tested, here are some commonly asked questions plus answers about HIV/AIDS testing.

Q- What if I don't have insurance? How much is it to have HIV/AIDS testing?

There are countless locations that have free HIV/AIDS testing.
Some HIV/AIDS testing centers will have a waiting period of 10 to 15 days while others, give you results within 10 to 15 minutes.

Other info about places To get tested -
http://www.hivtest.org/
http://www.aids.org/info/testing.html

Q- How does HIV/AIDS effect black women and black dating in general?

According to the Center for Disease Control 2007 statistics, blacks account for 51 percent of the 42,655 new HIV/AIDS diagnoses; the most common method for black women to get HIV/AIDS was from heterosexual sex and 67 percent of African-Americans were unaware they were HIV positive. So if 67 percent of African-American, HIV/positive men don't know they have HIV/AIDS and a black woman has unprotected sex with him, she has a higher risk of getting the disease.

Q- Why do I need to get tested for HIV/AIDS if I'm in a committed relationship?

According to InfidelityFacts.com, 57 percent of men and 54 percent of women admit to infidelity in a relationship, and 74 percent of men and 68 percent of women said they would commit infidelity if they wouldn't get caught. Although statistics for marriages with HIV/AIDS are more readily available in African countries, the United States cannot be excluded. One prime and public examples is former basketball player Magic Johnson who is HIV positive and married to Cookie Johnson. In August 2009, the Illinois Department of Public Health reported that although there were 7,062 new cases of HIV/AIDS from men who have sex with men, 1,111 men got HIV/AIDS from injection drug use and 511 were heterosexual. IDPH also reported that 708 women got HIV/AIDS from injection drug use and 1,514 from heterosexual relationships.

Q- If I use condoms and birth control pills, why do I need to be tested?

Birth control pills do not prevent STDs. You must use a combination of both female or male condoms with birth control patches or pills if you want to prevent unwanted pregnancy and STDs at the same time. However, none of these contraceptives are 100 percent. There's also an issue with using the wrong type of condoms or putting condoms on incorrectly. Tip(No Pun intended :) ) For how to wear a condom correctly go here:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q2HZkMjWyp8

Q- I've never been tested for HIV/AIDS. What is it like?

Aids testing can be scary, but it really isn't, & its easier than you think.
In the article, "Getting Tested for HIV/AIDS," AC Source Writer Shamontiel gives a really excellent detailed account of her experience being tested for HIV/AIDS the first time at BEHIV.

Well thats it for this time..

We here at Black-Friend-Finder.com care about YOU!

Black Love is a wonderful thing, but do it responsibly.
And always, always, practice safe sex.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safe_sex

Your "life" will thank you for it!

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2. Nice Black Dating
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Black Friend Finder Online Safety Tips Part 1

Black Online Dating Safety Tips
Tips For Safe Online Dating for African Americans

There may be the butterfly in your stomachs, but their is thrill, and excitement that occurs when getting together with a person for the 1st face to face. Yet amongst the excitement, always be on your lookut when going out on a date with someone you really dont know.

Here are tips on Black dating safety to help you get started:

1. Black Ladies Looking To Date.. Arrange to meet him 1st.
Also, When You meet at 1st, Do not allow your black date to pick you up from your house or apt. In fact, dont give your address to your dates until you have met and feel comfortable with eachother!

2. When Starting always meet your black date in public places. For starters, always get together in a public place where other folks are in and around you. Also Consider going out with a group of people, friends, or a double date. Also, Avoid secluded areas.

3. Go halvsies by paying half of the bill. It's always nice for the black man to offer to pay the bill. Unfortunately, some men tarnish the offer by expecting something in return. So it might not be a bad idea for you to go half the bill. Pay half the bill so that you won't feel under any obligation to "return" a favor. Its also shows single black men , that you are responsible.

4. Use your own transportation. Provide your own vehicle to the public meeting place and remember to have more than enough gas or fuel.

5. Be Careful with alcohol. It does affect your judgment.It is the The biggest threat to your judgment, when on a date. It also lessons your inhibitions. If you are drinking, Sometimes it's better to try to avoid alcohol on the first date.

6. Black Ladies - Initially, don’t let him know where you live. If you want to see him again, arrange a second date and then take it from there.

7. Listen to your gut feeling. If something doesn't feel right, it usually isn't. Trust your Gut instinct.If you haven’t met before, and can feel at the beginning of the date that something just doesn’t feel right, then a polite exit works wonders.

8. Always tell someone else know where you're going. Be sure a friend or relative knows where you are going and who you'll be with. Maybe even arrange a time to call a check in. Or just arrange to meet up with your friends later that night.

9. Black Women - Give him your cell phone number initially. It's always safer to give out a cell number rather than your home number. Also, Always have a cell phone on you.. Dating safety is crucial in the online realm. In the initial stages of black dating and online dating in general, you're
getting to know someone you know next to nothing about. Create a safe environment to get to know the person the right way 1st in order to find exactly what you're looking for 2nd.

The Perfect Black Friend Your Looking For Is Out There. So Dig In. The sooner you start looking, the sooner you'll find someone. So, go ahead - get connected! :-)